Don't Make These Mistakes When Talking to Women While On a Date: Avoid Second-Guessing Her You can think faster than you can speak. Therefore, it is tempting to listen for a few moments and then attempt to guess what point is being led up to. "You'll never believe what happened this morning," someone tells you excitedly. "I was driving to work. I looked in my rearview mirror " - "And there was a cop pulling you over," you interrupt. The speaker's face falls. "Well, no. I was just going to say that there was a guy riding in the car behind me mooning me." It's Insulting It is an acceptable mental exercise to try to anticipate what will be said, but to verbalize it (second-guessing) is insulting. Even worse, you may be wrong. It is also best to refrain from completing sentences when she pauses to construct her words. You don't have to agree with everything she says in order to be a good listener. Just give her time to express herself before you add your opinion. Listen and Reflect Whenever you have the urge to disagree, judge or interrupt her, listen instead and reflect on what you hear. Remember the importance of asking a question when it is relevant, and avoid interrupting and completing sentences. A good conversation includes ample give-and-take, but skills are necessary and invaluable. |
