It is very interesting how the lines of common sense seem to get blurred in marriage. Things we know in our head seem to get lost as we are propelled by emotions. There are some basic attributes that will help strengthen or tear down your marriage. As simple as they are, they are easily set aside or overlooked. So lets take a look and get a good reminder right now of the important dos and donts in a marriage. *DO ~ pray.
A couple that prays together connects on an emotional level. You unite in your beliefs and values; therefore you bond emotionally and spiritually. *DO ~ show affection.
Dont be afraid to kiss in front of the children or forget that holding hands is fun and magical. Affection breaks down walls that can be built up between the two of you. *DO ~ play and laugh.
Marriage should be fun! Theres enough work involved. Dont forget to ENJOY each other in addition to sharing the workload. *DO ~ encourage each other.
Just because you are married doesnt mean you or your spouse dont need encouragement. We all do. Hearing that someone believes in you or is encouraging something that is important to you, makes all the difference in the world in how you feel about yourself and them. *DO ~ invest time in your relationship.
The toughest obstacle for parents is finding time alone together. Make sure you do. Whether its an hour locked away together before bedtime or a set date nightfind what works for your situation. *DONT ~ refuse to forgive.
We teach our children to forgive, so should we! Some hurts take longer to heal than others, but grudges and resentments only push away love. *DONT ~ snipe.
Sarcasm is the biggest disease in our homes these days. And, ouch! it can be painful! Sniping and making sarcastic comments never builds up a home or a marriage. Work now at breaking this harmful habit. *DONT ~ compare.
Your husband may not be like your friends husband, but hey, youre not like your friend either! We all have strengths and weaknesses. Comparing only enhances the weaknesses instead of boosting the strengths. And its never fair to anyone. *DONT ~ criticize.
We all make mistakes. Give each other some room okay? *DONT ~ play the blame game.
We all do this. Why is it so tough to say, Im Sorry? Blaming never solves the issue at hand it only divides you as a couple. *DONT ~ want to personally win.
Marriage is a team. You should be on the same side. *DONT ~ yell and fight so hard.
Disagreeing and arguing is bound to come to every marriage. But when you start the trend of yelling, slamming doors, etc that can become a habit that ends up crippling communication. Learn to be constructive and practical when you disagree or take a time out until your emotions calm a little. Sometimes it is good to be reminded of things. In the case of our marriages, I think its vital. Heres to the health of your marriage! |
